Modern Relationships
Find a guide to help you through polyamory, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), and relationship anarchy. These are ambitious relational styles that need advanced skills in handling jealousy, insecurity, boundary-setting, societal judgment, and sexuality. Even more issues of identity and acceptance come up when you’re BIPOC.
Polyamory Made for BIPOC
For BIPOC, practicing polyamory can feel like juggling cultural and racial expectations, patriarchal structures, and your own identity caught in between. In immigrant and diaspora communities where monogamy is the only acceptable option, breaking away can cause deep personal conflict.
Navigating sexual racism in partnerships and dating spaces, like being fetishized or erased, plus the fact that therapy, support groups, and resources for polyamory often have a white, upper-middle-class lens, can make this “free love” lifestyle feel extra hard.
That’s why it’s so important to have safe spaces where BIPOC can explore these new dynamics and rewrite the rules of your evolution—with someone who understands a life lived outside the box.
An Experienced Poly Coach as Your Personal Guide
As a successful longtime practitioner of non-traditional relationship styles myself, I always recommend having a good guide because navigating these relationships alone can be overwhelming, especially if you’re new to them. Because whether you’re in love with one person, four people, or figuring out how to love yourself first, the goal isn’t perfection. It’s connection.
Whether it’s addressing attachment wounds, unpacking jealousy, or redefining your vision of love, I support clients in creating intentional and resilient relational dynamics—and I do it using modern sex and relationship theory, IFS therapy, and a framework of cultural sensitivity as an Asian-American coach.
Contact Sho-Sho for a free consultation.
